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The reality of adults not having children

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Hello Coffee lovers, As I sit here with my caramel latte I started to think about many people who have issues giving birth or even conceiving.I suggest that you take a nice strong coffee or something that will make you take while having this conversation. There are a couple reasons while some adults can not have children, for example: personal, lifestyle, or economic reasons. Here are some to mention Ovulatory disorders: Problems with the release of eggs in women.(ovulate) each month. Endometriosis: A condition where tissue similar to the uterine lining grows outside the uterus. Low sperm count or low testosterone: Issues with sperm production or hormone levels in men. Age:  For women over 35 fertility declines rapidly. Other medical conditions: Certain diseases, like pelvic inflammatory disease, can affect fertility. Lifestyle factors: Smoking, excessive alcohol or drug use, and exposure to environmental toxins can impact fertility. Undescended testicle or injury to th...
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Uncontrolled things in life

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Hello coffee Lovers, First off to those still reading my blogs, thank you fully.  I have been in my feelings  lately even as a professional writer we all get a time where things happen and we can’t control it. Maybe that's why I write because I can control what happens next but in real life drinking my travel mug coffee I realize I can't control it. What do we do when your life throws you a bunch of curve balls? Do we hit the ball off the field or do you strike out? Lately I feel like I have been striking out and  I am doing my best to stay positive.  Do you ever feel like you have uncontrolled moments.I'm pretty sure you  have many people or should i dare say all people have these controlled moments. Such as unseen bills or accidents that you didn't see coming. Family emergencies. We would like to think we can control our lives and we might try our hardest to do so but it's not always what we want it to be. So what do we do then? How do we react? Ho...
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Boundaries and parents..Do you have them?

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Hello coffee lovers, I hope all my readers are doing well and getting some good weather despite the rain. It's mother’s day and I wanted to talk about something different like boundaries. As mothers we take on a role that changes the rules from time to time. Boundaries between a mother and her child naturally envelope as a child grows,shifting from physical care to emotional and psychological support. In early childhood,mothers often serve as a primary care taker,with little space for perineal boundaries due to the child's complete dependency. As the child gains independence -through school friendship and personal interest -mothersmust gradually adjust  their role,stepping back to allow room for growth. This transition can be emotionally complex,as the bond forged through constant presence begins to loosen,requiring the mother to redefine her sense of purpose and involvement. These shifting boundaries can deeply affect mothers,often stirring feelings of loss,uncerta...
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Do you feel life is disappearing?

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Hello coffee lovers, It's spring time finally!!  We are all thinking about things we want to do and things we have  to do. We are trying new spring drinks and enjoying the weather outside. Maybe thinking about new chapters in your life or old ones. I must admit I have been thinking about my past alot. I am thinking about how the past seemed so far away or just happened so quickly.   For example, anyone after 40, start to think about what  should change or what we could have done better. We are also recognizing, when we look in the mirror that things are not the same.Our hair is thinning. Noticing how tired we look. Then it's the weight change or just our face falling from gravity. It's a lot to think about and a way to become more stressed.  But  then I think about what we thought about becoming 18 or even 21 years of age. In our head we have this false idea of what age does or should look like. We focus so much on these numbers that show a chan...
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Women were restricted in so many things in the 17th century ,are we going back in time??

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Hello Coffee lovers, I hope the coffee is staying warm where you are. The weather has shocked us all in the last couple months but as much as the news. I want to discuss what I have been seeing and hearing and we need to discuss this. We are now in a point where women's rights are in the state of both progress and pushback depending how you look at it. In my opinion it is being pushed back into the beginning when we had no choice at all. The last couple of centuries we, as women, have had more opportunities than women have ever had in the past. We have voted and have strong positions and are able to be a mother and work at the same time. We have strived to have rights throughout the years.We succeeded and it's crazy that the people who want us back in that box we fought so hard to get out of. People want us to be subordinate to men like in certain place i wish not to discuss but shutting up and be quiet also having someone to tell me what i can and cannot do with my bo...
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Emotional or Physical damage, How can you help?

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Hello coffee Lovers, I hope the snow and the freezing weather have not taken away your spirits. I hope it just made you want warmer drinks especially coffee based. Our spirits can be down so many times and we are just trying to find a way to bring them back to even just a normal feeling. Today I want to talk about trying to fix things,or people you may not know how to but yet feel the need to. Sometimes in our lives we meet people or we know someone in our family that is going through something emotionally or physically. We do our best to try and fix it knowing we really don’t know how. Even sometimes I feel myself wanting to help.It feels like I can feel their pain but sometimes I can't fix it. But unless it's our job we don’t know. I want to say I read minds. I can tell you what they need but I don't. Somehow i can feel them though it's a feeling that they just want to be seen or they need help but like us do not know how to fix themselves. I don’t expect any ...
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The Netflix special "Jamie Foxx,what had happen was"

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Hello coffee lovers, Today what i am talking about is amazing that we can have any kind of coffee that makes you feel like it was meant for you to have. Asi drank my favorite caramel latte, hot of course. I watched something on Netflix which made me have so many feelings. I watched a stand-up that was not such a stand-up, more of a story of one man's journey into what it was like coming back from death almost. With the support of his family and his lord above. The name of this story was called “JamieFoxx.What had happened was..” While there were jokes, they had a great story of struggle in staying alive not only physically but mentally. When almost losing one's life you tend to become mad or in denial it can happen to you but it doesn't matter who you are, what color we are, we all go through something and we are so lucky if we can wake up the next day. We survive for a reason and we have to find out what that reason is and fight for that reason. We can all have peop...
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Holiday memories

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Hello Coffee Lovers, As I walk around holiday shopping and drinking my Caramel brulée Latte from starbucks.I look at gifts and items that bring me back to my younger years. Things I have received and a tradition that me and my sister created may be more like us around. Let's take time out this time around to drink coffee or lattes that bring us memories and make us think about one or a couple times being so happy that you can’t help but smile Many people celebrate many different things and i won’t list them all but i will say when you have the chance to get together with family even if it may not be many of you it still fills us with joy. I and anyone else loves gifts but laughter and joy tops all such things. As a young girl i did not receive gifts as children should at a young age but There was this one gift that every time the holidays come in think about it. This one gift made me feel not only special but seen. I opened my gift and it was an ice skating barbie wit...
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Breaking the Silence: My Journey as a Survivor of Abuse**

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Hello coffee lovers, I have been drinking coffee for a very long time, Since maybe the age of 10. Knowing that I can drink coffee and still think about my past, we know that the past has a way of alway being in the back of your mind. Like I remember drinking coffee at 6am in the morning with my stepmom and playing Mario Bros. Some memories go away or you forget but some memories of the past you cannot forget. Let's Talk about victims in young ages who can’t forget their past even if they wanted to. Abuse is a word that carries a huge amount of weight, yet it's one of the many people who struggle to fully understand until they've experienced it firsthand. For too long , I kept my story hidden, wrapped in a blanket of shame,fear and uncertainty but today ,I'm breaking my silence. This is my journey from victim to a survivor ,and I hope that by sharing my story,others who have faced similar struggles will find the strength to speak out and seek help. Abuse can take m...
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Family, Can you remove them from your life?

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Hello coffee Lovers, Today is an espresso Martini kind of day. It has coffee, don't look at me that way.This conversation is about something and talking about family you may need more than just a regular coffee. Hence (espresso Martini). Let's talk about feelings that make us uncomfortable but also need to be heard or in other words read. There are families who are whole and yet there are arguments they still stay as a family. What happens to those who really don’t have a chance to argue a moment to ask why don’t we talk? Those are the hard parts of family. Those kinds of feelings that keep a family member not whole. As though you will always wonder why. I love family and I am all for family but in reality family is a hard relationship to keep. If you think about it,there is a lack of flexibility when one family member asks for a change in the relationship dynamics,including the lack of respect for new boundaries, holding on to perceived slights from the past, disagreement...
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