Are marital issues common?
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When getting married, not many couples discuss how marriage is all about change and compromise and if the discussion happens, can you ever truly be prepared?
Did you ever feel as though Marriage didn't live up to its reputation?
Did you ever feel as though Marriage didn't live up to its reputation?
Now let's get this straight, it's not that you don't love your other half but you do feel like you lost your individuality. I think this generation does not realize what it takes to be in marriage let alone a long relationship. Sometimes I wonder if it's our fault. Did we put too much pressure on getting them married? Many of us including me heard being in a marriage was the best thing for your life, and we went on with teaching our daughters cleaning and cooking and men they should have a job and provide for the family. We failed to tell them what you cook may not be all the husband wants or having a job means you won't fully be there for your wife when she needs a shoulder to cry on.
I have been reading another site and I also spoke to one of my sisters so I wouldn't just be one-sided information.
This site mentioned the 8 most common issues in marriage. I picked three to talk about:
1)You start feeling more like roommates than romantic partners.
I am pretty sure if you are Newlyweds you won 't know what this feels like but it happens way down the line. Every couple who has a job feels this one way or another espially with different shifts. I work in the real early hours where my husband works at night till late. I am asleep by then so yet we know we are there near each other we also know it won't be for long. Not being able to see each other's face until both have off. having five minutes of conversation one phone while one or other is on lunch break, you tend to get very lonely. The lovers you once were are so bland now or less romantic than in the beginning and it's not because you want it that way but your body and mind are tired sometimes. Think about it kids and jobs and some actually have school at the same time as well. Life is hard and not becoming just roommates will be one of the hardest jobs you are gonna try to do in a marriage.
2)You feel dissatisfied because you think marriage has prevented you from accomplishing certain life goals.
Many couples go through this. Its a constant battle of if you were not with your partner you will be somewhere more exciting or better off? Some feel as though because of marriage, kids came next and dreams came last until your dream is seen no more. Lucky for me I am as stubborn as it gets and I keep working on my dream every day showing my children you can have you love but it's up to work to have both. It won't just fall on your lap. Some are in marriages that don't want you to succeed so one of the partners can always have higher-ups and feel that they want you to need them to succeed. Some marriages are even so insecure that succeeds the last thing they want you to do because they feel like once you accomplish your goals in life they won't be needed and left behind.
3)You’ve become bored with your life together.
Now, this is a big one. Imagine not realizing g to way later in your relationship finding out you don't have much in common anymore or never did. Yet opposites attract they also confuse the fact why are you two are married in the first place. There is even a bigger one where what made you fall in love with him, with his jokes or sarcastic side now makes you annoyed or bored with the same jokes serval years later.
Are marital issues common, of course, they are! We are the only human and yet we all want that "Perfect Marriage" let's not lie there is no such thing. YOU will get bored, YOU will get annoyed and YOU will question your marriage time and time again but it's up to us to choose to stay and fight for that love you once had or decide it's over.
As a married woman, I must ask before you make harsh decisions make a list and see which happens to more your cons or your pros and which one way out more in your marriage. Then choose. I will not judge you either way for I am nor more human than you. If you care to discuss this leave a comment tell me what drives you wild and sad in your marriage, I can listen as well as write.
I am hoping this conversation was not too much for my readers until next time
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