Are you in a Abusive relationhsip?

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Hello Coffee Lovers,


Today we will be going deep into your soul and minds, about a common but untold story of an abusive relationship.Are you seeing the signs to know you are or someone you may know in one?
So I suggest you get your coffee large or in the words or "Starbucks" Venti and bring your seats closer. Your gonna wanna stay awake for this.


Have you ever asked yourself "Am i being treated fairly?'  "Are these how relationships are?" Sometimes we don't even ask questions and we should. The rates of abuse in relationships have gone up over the year pretty high too and maybe its always been there but now we are noticing it more because of news an etc.

Let me get  this straight because when people hear bad relationships they think boyfriend and girlfriend or husband and wife.I am thinking more beyond that or with that in mind but also abuse between siblings,friends,even your own parents.

Those are more untold then anything because they are to scared to know the outcomes if the try to question it. Let me say you are not alone and you are not the first nor will you be the last. 

How do you know if you are being abused?

Some of you already know and you wake up with the bruises to tell your story but you still hide it with long clothes maybe even make up.Your abuser could be a female or a male and yet males have been known more to be the abuser but i think its because they are afraid to get laughed at if the abuser is female but to me abuse is still abuse. If that person you are questioning makes you feel more tense when your home with them or alone with them because something may happen. Such as being hit, being sexually abused of even being mentally abuses in ways that make you feel so small you want to crawl into a hole. This is abuse, you must take a moment to realize it, that's the first step. Then seek to tell someone you can trust, if you feel that you can't trust anyone because they won't believe you or feel your are over reacting that's because they are afraid of conflict themselves.

Then its time to go outside your circle and seek help that way. I'll have links below if you feel the need to help yourself or the person you are worried about. Let me start by showing you an example such as asking you to clean your room or apartment is not abuse but if they use their hands or use words to downsize you in a way to get you to clean up then it can be considered abuse. 

Children get abuse just as much but  have different ways of expressing what they are going through sucks as wetting beds or not wanting to shut off lights or keep door closed. Please pay attention to things like that and ask questions.

For other signs from adults or children you are being kept away from others .Your abuser is going to want to keep you close so he knows they have control over you.They will plan your day for you and attack you if it does not go that way.Some are stalking you to see if you do what you were told.Watching their abused is something they feel is part of their life,its another sense of control. From who you talk to to where you go.Its sad but it does happen.

Siblings can be just as abusive thinking because you are related to then you much do or say what they want you to say. It can be a form of mental abuse if they don't use their hands.Such as i will love you more if you do this or i will tell mom and dad thing they knew,and make you choose to do these things. Some say which is a scary thing touching each other in ways you shouldn't are normal but we all know its not.There are many ways people are getting abused we must pay attention.


Every second of everyday someone is getting abused if you can help someone  or help yourself try because your life was not meant to be that way and i think you know it.Its tie to step up and live a better life.

I know this was so much to soak in but sometimes we  have to talk about things that make us uncomfortable to know these things are happening.

Til next coffee meeting,
talk to you latte!☕☕☕

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