Are you too nice?

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Hello coffee lovers, Today I want everyone to get a coffee that is not as sweet as you normally get it. Take the sweetness out of the equation. Why do you ask? Because sometimes getting sweet gets us nowhere sometimes. What I mean by that is, that the sweeter you are, the more things go wrong for you. Let's sit and chat about where being nice gets you. Are you ready?
When it comes to it being nice most of the time gets you into situations that you really never wanted in the beginning. Whether it be to work at home or even with friends and family. I've been nice most of my life and I am still pretty nice. But as time goes by and I notice more and more when I get older I just stop and look at myself. Sometimes I look like a fool. I can be honest with myself and say that. How do you know if you're too nice? Lets see if you get 3 or more of these on yes you are too nice: 1)Do you go to things that you really don't feel comfortable in? 2) Do you say "Yes' 'to whoever asks you for a favor automatically,yet you want to say no? 3)You start to resent others for asking so much of you, but you never speak up about it? 4) You dislike letting people down 5)People are not that interested in what you want unless you agree with them. These are just a few things to look out for. Let me make this clear, it's great to be nice but it's not great when you are being taken advantage of. Many people do not see it as being taken advantage of and it's because they are used to asking someone for favors so it's just another day in the neighborhood. Do they mean to take advantage of you maybe not but they gotta feel something. Something that says “Hey, I think I am asking too much of this person.” Everyone knows a person who got you no matter what and now asks yourself if you do ask too much of this person where their life is put on the back burner for your own. Take into consideration if the favor you are asking is something they really want to do or puts them in a position that will make them choose you before them then you should take a step back and try to find another way before going to ask that favor. As for you nice coffee drinkers, remember being nice is a great thing but just know when to stop being nice. When being nice is only to make people happy,think about yourself because only you can care more about you than anyone else could. Don’t forget being nice to yourself is the best thing for YOU. Until next conversion talk to you Lattee #coffeeloves #thinkaboutit #beingtoonice #bloggers #life #itsok

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  1. Miss IntrovertJuly 13, 2021 at 7:10 AM

    I felt this 100%. Being taken advantage of is exhausting but I learned that if I don’t say no I’m not being true to myself. We have to start putting ourselves first. A lot of the time we fear the backlash that we may get from that person but if they lash out at us for not getting their way, are they really even worth the time and effort we put into making them happy? That’s something we have to explore within ourselves. Eventually enough is enough and we will learn that the word “No” is not always a negative answer. Awesome blog!

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