Why are you really having a kid?

Hello coffee lovers. I hope all is going well. Is It me or this weather has been very intense lately. It has been drinking extra coffee than i usually do. Today I think we should really pay attention with this conversation and this one will really make you think twice about certain decisions you'll make in your life. In life we were taught back in the day(past) that if you were to be a good wife, your job was to make your husband happy by cooking, cleaning and having babies for satisfaction. As I think about it now it seems to me they wanted us to have the children to entertain us, so they can work and go to bars and enjoy themselves. I would not be the best wife at that time because I love to work. I have kids but only two. I stopped there and I spoke my mind. These days there are so many babies being born and it is becoming over populated but that's not why i am talking about this today. I am talking about women who have babies for reasons that really should be questioned. There are several reasons one has a child. 1)Because they love kids 2)Because their partner wanted one 3)They want to feel loved 4)Because their religion 5)Because scared to be alone I am pretty sure there are more reasons but these are the top ones I can think of. Now when you look at these and you agree with these. I want you to think about how some of these affect the child as well as your life. If you love kids and have the energy, the money and so on. Then go ahead and have at it, but if you are having these kids for a reason like because your partner wants them and you probably don’t. Think twice or maybe more than two times before you make a final decision. Maybe even have a discussion with your partner about the outcome that can happen. When having a child to fix your life away that is putting more pressure on the child. There is no easy way for your problems to go away that easily.There will always be problems and well a child will not make them easier unless your problem was just being able to have one so that i will congratulate you in your struggle. And also wish you luck. I notice that many people have kids for the wrong reason and it saddens me, Because when you are trying to find love elsewhere it will not be the same, because you should be trying to find love yourself. If you find your own love within yourself that is the best feeling. I met so many women who had babies but are so stressed out and I ask them “Why have more babies?” The answers I hear are overwhelming but I think we can fix the future, if people will only question the fact of why you are having them. Will it make you happy at the moment or do you really want children? For example when you have multiple children does it get any better? I am just really asking because I only have two and well it's a lot. Just having two is a bil deal but I do give it to the moms who can be an awesome mom and have more than two children. If you are going to start a family, it should be because you and your partner want to and no other reason can be better. Unless you do not want one and you are doing it for the partner then you should talk about it because it should be 100% from both sides. I know that it's hard and people want to feel loved by their babies. Trust me it's great to feel loved but they grow up and they move out to have their own family.What are you going to do after words? Keep having kids until you leave this world? I know there is one excuse that I hear often and that time is running out. “I must have one now or it will be too late!”; I would tell you to freeze those babies til you are ready. There are reasons well being able to keep your partner by having babies which i can tell you now that it's never happens the way you hope. Ladies please do not take this wrong if you have them it's fine just know that you have a choice you can say “ No” or “Not now.” I hope that you think about your choices and I hope the best for you all. Until the next conversation talk to Latte. #having kids # amiready? #moms #coffeelovers #life #woman #choices #bloggers #writers