Co-parenting does it work?

>Hello coffee lovers, Years ago it was told men had the decisions on what goes on in the household, and women were to kind of obey what the rules they just were. As time went by women started to talk for themselves or and their children. Nowadays it's both parents that must agree or not agree when it comes to the children.

Co-parenting is for both parents to be consistent and in agreement with rules regarding behavior and discipline, bedtimes, screen time, playtime, personal hygiene, and household chores. But the reality is, if your parenting styles differ and before you separate because of it, then you’re unlikely to magically be in agreement now. But I want to talk about it before it gets that far. Let's think about some rules that may help you see things a bit better and feel you are heard as well. The rules should be the same in both households: When the parents disagree on the rules it also confuses the children which leaves the rule open and able to break because they are not sure if it is concrete. Plan to eliminate confusion or miscommunication: Make sure that you two discuss it before bringing it to the children so there is no miscommunication and it seems like you are firm on the rules. Keep your kids out of the middle of anything relating to the divorce or couple issues you may be having: Sometimes parents unintentionally encourage kids to be in the middle of a divorce or problems the parents are going through. Sometimes it's on purpose, sometimes it's just a habit. So try and keep children out of grown folks' business. Act like an adult: Sometimes when a couple or parent has issues when people are around there can be bicking going on and we can look so immature and that's the last thing we want people to see because it makes us look like children and we are supposed to be adults. Set boundaries: Sometimes when it comes to the children, issues can n get out of line and it may go too far. And it can become more violent yet it bei n words or hands. You must set boundaries within such issues. And issues that you can do behind closed doors do so.You do not want the children to not notice the disagreement., because the whole idea is to be on the same page. As well, maybe set a boundary that states if you see you getting too loud, step back and breathe a second. And never let it get to the point that it becomes violent,the best thing to do is walk away. Walking calms down the high emotions that are in play; These are just some things to think about or to help you not get to the level of anger that it socrates you and if you are already separated then at least you can act like an adult and think of the children together. Having children is hard enough worrying about money and a roof over their heads. Let parents try to work together to find a common ground which will work not only for the children but for the co-parenting itself. It can work but you have to try to make it work. Until next conversation talk to you Lattee. #coparenting #parents #life #children #calmdown #breath #latte #bloggers #coffeelovers