Emotional abuse, why is it not taken as seriously?

Hello coffee lovers, Today you might need an espresso shot or maybe a strong latte. I want to get deep into a conversation that many people go through but don't want to really discuss it. When many people hear the word abuse they think it's only physical hurting but they don't take into consideration that you can mentally abuse someone as well. I was watching a show called " Maid" on Netflix that is based on this exact thing. The woman was being verbally and emotionally abused but the court didn;t see it like that and mind you she had a child she was trying to get away from it all but the courts didn't see it as abuse and that is a huge problem with the courts these days. When a person gets abused doesn't only mean physical abuse they need help as well. YOu can really break someone emotionally, which may lead to abuse if it gets too far. Lets see the difference between them two. Psychological Abuse:Psychological abuse is typically characterized by distorting someone’s sense of reality. This is also called gaslighting. The goal of the psychological abuser is to convince the victim that she’s crazy or incompetent.A psychological abuser will distort facts with the intent of undermining your confidence and making you more pliable.They will make it seem as though you cannot live without them. They can take control of your money,who you take to,how you eat and in your mind it's normal.

Emotional Abuse:Emotional abuse is more wide-ranging and, some would say, encompasses psychological abuse. Emotional abusers aim to manipulate other people by undermining their self-esteem or resorting to coercive behaviors. Emotional abusers may be prone to shouting or name-calling. Life if they deserve to be called these things and feel this way. Physical abuse: Physical abuse occurs when an individual subjects their partner to various forms of physical violence and brutality. Physical abuse frequently manifests in the form of hitting, beating, biting, and pushing; it may also include choking, smothering, and burning. Now that you know the difference between them let's look at what the court thinks is more important. This publication provides an overview of State laws that provide the legal basis for terminating the rights of parents who have been found unfit to parent their children. The circumstances under which the court may find that termination may not serve the child's best interests and under which a parent's rights may be reinstated also are addressed. According to https://www.courts.ca.gov/ shows that in court when you are in a relationship they only consider abuse if: The domestic violence laws say “abuse” is: Physically hurting or trying to hurt someone intentionally or recklessly; Sexual assault;Making someone reasonably afraid that he or she or someone else is about to be seriously hurt (like threats or promises to harm someone); or Behavior like harassing, stalking, threatening, or hitting someone, disturbing someone’s peace, or destroying someone’s personal property). Now this is what the problem is there is nothing about emotional abuse or anything that can verbally hurt someone to get them to do whatever you want.Even if you do not think its cannot hurt because its words ,but think about it Psychological abuse is a form of abuse characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another to behavior that may result in psychological trauma, which can really mess someone's mind up. Where it can lead to awful things such as harming others or themselves. so i think it should be considered in court as a sign to take serious.The crazy thing is The precise relationship between emotional abuse and other forms of maltreatment is currently not known (National Research Council 1993).In the past, emotional and psychological abuse was not readily recognized in the eyes of the law. In today’s times, emotional abuse is often considered a major factor in family law cases and is reviewed closely in child abuse or elderly abuse matters. But does the judge look at the mental abuse as harmful no.. and that's the problem. There are people who are scared to leave their relationships because they think it's worse than they already have. People shouldn't fear waking up everyday and dealing with verbal abuse. Every year, more than 1 in 5 New Yorkers has symptoms of a mental disorder. Moreover, in any year, 1 in 10 adults and children experience mental health challenges serious enough to affect functioning in work, family and school life. I really hope the court does see one day that this is as important as actual abuse and that scar you can not get rid of.For those who deal with at home I am so sorry you are going through that, whether it be men, women or child. I prefer no violence at all but it does happen and I hope you do get the help you need before it's too late.For those who do not know where to look here are some place below to help. To help you locate treatment, the Substance Abuse Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) offers a 24/7 Helpline with national treatment referrals to programs that specialize in helping people with a dual diagnosis recover. They can be reached at 800-662-HELP (4357). or Doctors Psychiatrists Counselors / psychotherapists Faith leaders Help-lines (Check helplines on HealthyPlace) Womanslaw.org Peer support mentoring for emotional abuse recovery until our next converstaion i hope to you your support with a bunch of foam.. #emotionalabuse #PsychologicalAbuse #hurting #helpline #courts #judges #cases #stop #bloggers #coffeelovers