Letting go of the past to have a better future

Hello coffee lovers, Over the years i have noticed that many people use their past for the present problems. Which let me start by saying it can be true but the question is “Can We do anything about it?” As I am here drinking my medium roast I hope you're reading this drinking something just as smooth. I want to say there are maybe 80% of us humans, maybe more that had an awful past. Whether it be physical abuse or emotional abuse. Only a small percentage is lucky to have a drama-free past. I am having this conversation because I noticed that letting go of the past is hard,and want to find out their actual rules that can help you get over it. Or do we keep it to remind us if remembering your past keeps your future going. The way someone thinks ..acts..behaves..is most likely because of their past. Many can get over the past but those that can't, their behavior is hard to fix or change for that matter. They can’t change the way they think and/or the way they behave even if they try it and still come back to the way they used to act/feel in the past. Neurons located in the habit formation region fire at the beginning of a new behavior and can keep an old behavior. So I think it's something within us that makes it harder for us to change. Long-term behavior change is one of the hardest challenges we'll ever face. I am still trying to change habits I have and it's been difficult. I work at it every day. I also realize that my past has also made me a better person and I look at outcomes differently.

How to not let your past ruin your future: Learn from the past but don't dwell there: Because we dwell on the past it makes it hard for us to see what the future can hold so letting go of those memories that are trying to keep you there will be the best thing for you. Express yourself even if you don’t feel you should: Talking about how you feel can have a really big impact on your life.Others can look and really recognize that the past does affect you and may really put into perspective what you may be feeling or going through.Sharing your feelings helps. Focus on the present: When you focus on the present and not think about the past ,it can ease the way you look at things.Such as having a new job or having a good weather day. Thinking positive makes life a bit easier. Think about the other people’s feelings around you: Because people have not been through what you've been through it may be hard for others to understand what you are feeling. So understand them when they don’t know how to react to that try to look at it in their eyes. Forgive those who wronged you -- including yourself Sometimes we dwell on what people have done for us and we have trouble getting over it. Because we have issues getting over it doesn't mean the people who have wronged you feel the same way. So as angry as you are becoming and being stressed over something the other person doesn't even acknowledge cna affect you extremely. So I suggest against your will forgive them for the wrong they have done to you and forgive yourself for what wrong you think you have done to get you in the situations you have gotten in in the past. So you can move on and think better for the future. Let go of the fear of things not going perfect: Many people have in their heads because of their past they want things in the present or future to go perfect but in real life nothing is perfect and we must learn to adapt to what things are no matter if they are not the perfect picture you imagined. So letting go of the fear that things might not go the way you want may help you be less stressed. Because you think things went wrong in the past, you are trying to correct the past. Today making it perfect is just not possible. Reframing our relationship with our past requires us to stop thinking of how things should be and accept them for what they are. So I hope this helps a bit on how to make the past stay in the past and yet it may seem to be really hard but it is also so possible. Until our next conversation talk to you lattee. #thepast #thefuture #advice #leavingpastbehind #coffeelovers #bloggers #youcandoit #letgo #forgiveyourpast #readers