Do we really want to be alone?

Hello Coffee Lovers, Through the years , holidays ,birthdays, and gatherings. Just about the entire nation is going through emotions, some emotions are life changing. So I ask all of you, do we really want to be alone? When it comes to holidays, birthdays, and other things that make you sad, for instance, like not being able to provide for your family. Absence from your loved ones, that are no longer with us. It makes life unbearable , with emotions that take control of your mind and body.

According to many people , they say they are happier being alone, I disagree with that. I can’t imagine life without my family, husband,or my children. Being alone is a travesty. So I ask again, do we really want to be alone ? It has been said by a multitude of people that being alone doesn't really have many perks. Like, for instance, no one being able to tell you what to do or think. In reality, we all need someone in our lives, if we don’t, you will have many challenges . You start by not being sociable, always accustomed to being alone, always being angry, with no understanding why, or why you’re so miserable. There are also other things when being alone for instance , being intimate with someone, sharing things you both value, with each other,needing a shoulder to cry on, when most needed. Unable to take yourself to the doctor if you’re too sick to travel on your own. So I ask yet again do we really want to be alone? for me it’s a no. I want to have people in my life, such as my sisters, my husband,and my children.I can’t see life without any of them. There are many reasons we shouldn’t take things for granted. *Fears: being alone , not being able to provide for my children, losing anyone I know. For instance,family, children, husband, and or myself in the process. *Low Self-Esteem: Thinking we don’t deserve it. *Isolation and Routine: You keep to yourself, staying away from others including family. *Defenses: We at times , if not most, put on your boxing gloves, because you didn’t like what someone said, or just someone you don’t like, just because. There are so many reasons to want to be alone. Until that time in your life when you are alone you feel that emptiness, feeling as though you made all the wrong decisions.It can be scary, especially if you've been with someone for an enormous amount of time, it confuses your thought process. When we fall for the wrong person, just to fill that void, realizing that it’s too late, your actions can sometimes be devastating. It’s a wake up call only, when this happens, you can’t take it back. You continue reliving those nightmares, knowing that no matter what. In the back of your mind you know for sure that the signals that tell you to run you ignore, and realize , because it's better than being alone. Let me emphasize that if you’re in a domestic relationship, then being alone would be recommended. There are some men, and women, who also play hard to get. Acting like it was back in the days, thinking you should’ve been chased, that is not always the case. Studies suggest that time alone, and showing self-compassion, can decrease anxiety, and depressive thoughts, like suicidal tendencies. In my opinion, being alone with your thoughts can also be devastating. Do we really know what is best for us? Sometimes we just need to know for ourselves, ask ourselves if being alone will help you, or deter you from getting or giving help, helps you or helps them ? That’s not always the case, as for me I’m ok with being alone,it’s your preference . Sometimes the games are too much. Being alone gives you peace knowing someone is out there is thinking of you, or you thinking of them. During the holidays it could be the hardest time but it's just a day i say or a week.The sadness will pass and the pain will subside. Hope is always tomorrow, single or not. I would love for you to take time out to think about your feelings, ideas, hopes, problems, and experiences you have had or having and know what you really want before you make any moves. Like a game of chess, the moves you make are the outcome of what happens at the end of your game. Until the next conversation, see you latte. #lattee #holidaysalone #chess #makemoves #whatsyourhopes #bloggers #readers #writers #womanwriters #beingalone