Getting older is a hard thing to accept.

Hello coffee lovers, While I am here sipping on my coffee with creamer with no sugar I realized I am getting older. I can’t have sugar like I used to and can’t eat the same things I had when I was younger. I think it is time to discuss what many people go through as they get older. Do we accept it or do we have a minor case of denial? Accepting age in any way is different for everyone but getting older after the age 30 people really start to question their lives. What I mean by question, is asking where they are now is where you want to be. After 40 they start to question their relationships and if they are mentally happy. After 50 they start to question are they going to retire or are they not ready and still have so much to give. These seem like typical questions until you are at the part where you are thinking why am i always tired? Why can’t I stay up past 9pm? Why is my back hurting? Can I have kids anymore? Do I have energy to have kids anymore? Life has stages and most of the time as the stages pass the more you not only question your choices but have to choose if you want help with just picking something up from the floor or even chores.

I know a person who had such an issue asking for help because they felt it made them weak but overall asking for help actually makes you strong. You must think about it and ask yourself many times.Also think about the outcome of it. Not asking for help will leave you helpless and weak. How many older individuals think they shouldn't ask for help because their families are busy? Or you don’t want anyone to see you helpless on the floor, stuck in a tub or even having trouble getting out of bed. Being in denial about getting older and becoming weak will not help anyone. If you think about it being in denial will not prolong your lifespan you most likely lose your life faster. I am still having trouble asking for help because I know how I want it done and how fast it will get done. if I do it myself it just makes sense to me. I am pretty sure I am not alone in this. I do ask for help but only once in a while. It takes all of me to ask for help. Those who have trouble asking are mostly for the Independent individuals who have been doing everything on their own for so long and just it's something they are used to and most of the time feel comfortable with it. We must take the time out and think whether we are in denial or not. We are still aging and eventually our body and mind slowly leaves us as we first were born,unable to do as we used to. From talking to picking things up and of course walking. Now instead of being in denial,take time to do things that are simple but make sense to you and your body. For example finding a purpose in your life even if you can not do what you used to do. Something new,could be exercise , could be salsa lessons or book clubs. Find something that makes your few years left something worth smiling about. For example, I wrote and I will do my books, but I am gone. I think in my mind and heart that I will not be forgotten because I have a book or still have my word out there in the world. Find a way to leave your stamp in the world and don’t let denial get the best of you because life has a way of showing your reflection. Accept what you see. Its fine to feel the way you feel but you will face it one day,we all do. Until our next conversation talk to you lattee. #denail #bloggers #life #olderpeople #seniors #purpose #accept #reflection #readers #coffeelovers # coffee #heartandmind