Emotional or Physical damage, How can you help?

Hello coffee Lovers, I hope the snow and the freezing weather have not taken away your spirits. I hope it just made you want warmer drinks especially coffee based. Our spirits can be down so many times and we are just trying to find a way to bring them back to even just a normal feeling. Today I want to talk about trying to fix things,or people you may not know how to but yet feel the need to.

Sometimes in our lives we meet people or we know someone in our family that is going through something emotionally or physically. We do our best to try and fix it knowing we really don’t know how. Even sometimes I feel myself wanting to help.It feels like I can feel their pain but sometimes I can't fix it. But unless it's our job we don’t know. I want to say I read minds. I can tell you what they need but I don't. Somehow i can feel them though it's a feeling that they just want to be seen or they need help but like us do not know how to fix themselves. I don’t expect any of you to know what they need,I just expect that you know that you are not them and they are in their own mind going through their own thing. Emotional damage is a real thing and it's a huge baggage for anyone to go through. Many relationships do not last because of such baggage. Some relationships actually become stronger because they find a way to live with it. I have met some or spoken to many people who have been going through alot and feel lost as though they couldn’t help others or they couldn't help themselves. They feel worthless and unknown on what next steps to take. Don’t feel bad about that. If you know someone who feels emotionally damaged they don’t expect you to fix it, they just care enough to see if you would listen. If there was an easy button to make it all go away don’t you think there will be less people going through such things. Some others who want to do more will do more without judgement and trust me sometimes it's hard but if you see their pain you would be there for them. Whether they need emotional or physical help they definitely need someone to guide them. Some need not to be alone while they go through it. Could be a holding of a hand or the right words to get them to where they need to be. I know those who will push you away to see how far you will let them go, before they break you, but yet it hurts when they say they don’t need you they can do it on their own inside they are screaming “Please, help me.I am trying but it's too hard. People who are struggling want to hear simple things like: “No matter what you’re going through-whether it be emotional or physical pain -i need you to know that i am here for you always.You’re not alone and you don’t have to face this by yourself.i care about you more than you know and i’ll support you every step of the way.” Is it a lot to say, it is but these would be my words you can have your own. Here are some things to help you a bit when you feel like your hitting a wall: 1)Listen and validate their feelings They need not to feel as though you're judging them or punching what they feel aside. 2)Offer Practical support Assist one way or another helping them make phone calls or taking them to appointments even if they don’t wanna go. 3)Encourage Self-care Find a way to make them feel whole, maybe writing their feelings down or a spa day that they only focus on making themselves feel good even for a day. 4) Be consistent and reliable Be there for example:texting them or calling them even a 5 minute phone call can make a difference. Even making a deal one day a week to be consistent so they look forward to something other than the feelings they are feeling. I hope this helps a bit,know that I see you and I feel you. I am, as I always say, not a doctor but I want everyone to know you're not alone and you can always comment below. I'll try my best to comment back. Until our next conversation,see you Lattee. #Emotionaldamage #coffeelovers #life #help #fyp #bloggers #readers #berelaible #support #read #selfcare